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It is not easy finding the right guy for you. How many times have we gone out on dates with the hopes that this might be the one only for it not to be? Or how many times have we already been in a relationship and thought that it might be one that lasts for longer than a few months only for it to fall apart weeks later? It seems like it happens too often. In addition, the fact that meeting people is not always the easiest thing to do in the world means that there might be some lonely nights lying in wait for us.

However, with the growing world of online dating, you do not have to be alone unless you want to be. With just a few clicks of your mouse, you can have a list of guys or girls (or both), that meet the basic criteria you seek in a partner. However, what are some of the better sites? After all, not all sites are the same. Below is a list of five of the more popular gay dating sites. Check them out and see which ones are right for you.

Match is synonymous with online dating, which is one reason why it is such a great site for gay dating. Let’s face it, most sites offer all kinds of dating, whether gay, straight, or otherwise, but what it comes down to is how many possible matches can you find. With Match, you have literally tens of thousands of opportunities because it is so popular.

If there is any knock against is that it is a pay site. Most sites are pay sites, so it is not that big of a deal, but if you are on a tight budget than you may want to look elsewhere. However, a great thing about Match is that it does offer free six months of membership if your first six months do not produce any results.

One of the other great features Match offers is an in-depth profile. Many other sites only require a few basic bits of information before a person can start searching other profiles. This can make for a higher failure rate because you do not have a good idea of who you are initiating contact with. With Match and its extensive profile questions, you can gain a very good idea of whom you are winking at or emailing. It makes for a much higher rate of success.

Zoosk is a great site for gay dating for a couple of reasons. The first is that it offers a free basic membership. Granted, it does not allow you full access to all of Zoosk’s great features, but at least it offers you a chance to meet people despite your current financial situation. If you have a bit of money to spend on your online dating search though, Zoosk does offer very reasonable rates for varying lengths of membership. Either way, with all the benefits that Zoosk offers, it is worth a look.

For example, Zoosk makes it very easy to access not only the site, but also other people. With the Zoosk app, you do not ever have to be disconnected from your account. You can know instantly who has messaged you or change your profile whenever you want. It also makes chatting extremely easy. As anyone who has done online dating before knows, chatting is a great way to make a connection. Well, with Zoosk messenger, you can easily keep track of and continue conversations with everyone you want to. Chatting it up was never so easy!

CompatiblePartners (CP) is a great site for gay dating because, well, it offers it exclusively. Unlike the previous two sites where one can narrow their search for others who are seeking same sex relationships, CP offers only same sex relationship. What makes it even better is that the profile questionnaire is detailed and is also designed to determine personality types. This determination is then later applied in your searches. The ultimate effect is that you find more people who are more likely to be compatable. There is not any of that exchanging of emails or chatting for several weeks only to finally learn that there really is not a connection. With CP, you know right away whether the other person has what you are seeking.

If there is a drawback to this site, it’s that it’s a bit more expensive than the other sites. Unfortunately, there is no free basic membership, but with the exclusivity of the site and the great profile features, CP is definitely worth your time.


As anyone could guess, GayDating (GD) is another site that is exclusively for those who seek same sex relationships. Mostly, this site caters to gay men looking for serious relationships, but it also offers plenty of features for women who are seeking other women.

A good thing about GD is that it is relatively inexpensive. There is a free basic membership, but it has limited options. However, with even the basic one-month membership (which costs a little over ten dollars) you can access to most of the sites wonderful features. And if you want a better per-month price and more features you can chose to get a longer membership. In addition, while other gay dating sites do not offer a full array of features that many primarily straight sites do, GD offers any feature you would find on any dating site.


While SeniorPeopleMeet (SPM) is not exclusively a gay dating site, it is a site that caters to those of us who are over 40 years old. After all, just because you have had a few experiences in life does not mean that you are ready to settle into a routine. Some of us still enjoy going out and meeting people. Well, SPM lets those of us who want to get into a same sex relationship but aren’t right out of college to do so.

Now, while there are some membership costs, there is the option of browsing the profiles for free. This can give you a good idea of who is on there and whether you want to invest any time, money, or energy.

Possibly the biggest benefit is that you know there are other people your age on the site. It can be a bit demoralizing to go onto some other sites and see profiles of only twenty year olds — many of who set their date parameters to no one over 30. With SPM, you can rest assured that most of the other people there are like you.


It is not easy finding the right person or getting into a healthly long-term relationship. Thankfully, there are plenty of sites available for those of us who seek an exciting and stable same sex relationship through their collection of great profiles and useful features. It makes the idea of finding someone — and not just anyone but the right person for you — all the more appetizing. The only question remains: What are you waiting for?

Breakups hurt regardless of how long you dated your former partner. You want to get back on the dating wagon, but are unsure of how to go about it. Dating websites are a great way to do this. They allow you to look through listings of potential partners without actually meeting them unless you want to. You are in charge of who you choose to contact and get the chance to talk a bit first before heading out on that first date. This will help to eliminate some potential mates that just aren’t meant to be and allows you to avoid that awkward blind date scenario.

Be Open to Moving On

The beauty of online dating is that there is no commitment until you actually make one. You can start by perusing profiles and causally chatting with those that interest you. This can help to build up your dating confidence again before you even head out on the town. However, you have to be open to actually moving on before you can fully enjoy the casual online dating world. If every profile you look at is compared to your ex, you may want to turn off the computer and take a break. Then, after a few days, head back to the site and get back to checking out the other fish in the sea. The best way to get over a breakup is to get back to dating.

Know the Kind of Love or Sex Relationship You Want

Are you looking to get back into another long-term relationship, or are you looking to just casually date and meet new people? It is important to establish this before you head into the virtual dating world. You need to be honest and real about this from the get go. The last thing you want to do is break someone’s heart while yours is still healing. This does not mean that one of those casual encounters will not become your next long-term love, but if this is not your initial goal, be clear about this.

Know that Your Ex is Not the Only Person Out There

Online dating is a great way to be reminded of this. You sign up for a site and within a few days, you are sure to have winks and messages from several potential mates. The signup process may be painful, but it is a mega confidence builder knowing that there are other guys or gals out there that want nothing more than to connect with you. This helps to gradually erase the heartbreak and sense of defeat and loneliness. You will soon start to feel hopeful and excited again.

Keep Your Ex Out of It

It is inevitable that you and your new date will delve a bit into ex territory at some point, but keep it simple. Just be simple and honest about why you broke up and move on. For example, if your ex cheated, just say that he or she cheated and move on. There is no need to go into detail about how you caught them, who they were cheating with and how heartbroken you were. A new potential mate should be fun and nothing brings down the mood more than rehashing past heartbreaks.

Be Picky

You will get a lot of hits and messages, so be sure to scrutinize these. If you really do not want a mate that works 60 hours a week, then be honest about this. If you do not want a mate with kids, then be honest about this. This is your time to find a new special someone and you should not settle just to get back into the dating world. Take charge and find someone who has all of the qualities that you want.

Be Patient

You may not find a suitable dating partner right away. In a nutshell, you may have to virtually kiss a few frogs before finding the one. Take your time and enjoy the attention and chatting with new people. This alone can sometimes be enough to reinforce your dating confidence and give you your groove back. You will know when someone is worth meeting in person, so go with your gut.

Do Not Wait Too Long to Meet Those You are Interested In

Phone conversations and messages are a great way to initiate knowing someone, but it can also be a bit deceiving. How you interact in person is the best way to gauge your true mate potential. Because of this, it is important to set up a face-to-face date shortly after knowing that you two have some chemistry. There is nothing worse than it seeming perfect online or on the phone, and then you meet in person and realize that it just is not meant to be. The faster you know, the faster you can move on to the next person if necessary.

Lesbian couple holding handsAre you searching for a fabulous blog on GAY marriage, dating, and relationships? You are now in the right place. We have dome all the searching for you and give to you what we think are the top 100 Gay marriage, dating, and relationship blogs on the web. If you have a additional blog to suggest, please do immediately contact us. Also, the numbers are for easier reading, the order is not specific. They are all excellent, so who can pick what is best!

Gay / LGBT Marriage Blogs

  1. So You’re Engayged: the purpose of this blog is to connect LGBT couples with wedding vendors who actively support LGBT rights and freedoms, including same-sex marriage.
  2. Gay Marriage Watch: news blog that aggregates inspiring stories on gay marriage and marriage equality.  Also a great resource for finding vendors for your wedding!
  3. CNN Belief Blog: Gay Marriage: addressing the hot topics in gay marriage today, CNN explores the progression towards equality, and the intersection of religion into gay marriage.
  4. Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage: written by a law professor who has been working on gay and lesbian family law issues for 35 years, this blog discusses the legal debate surrounding gay marriage.
  5. Freedom to Marry: the campaign to win marriage nationwide, Freedom to Marry is working hard to win the freedom to marry and end federal marriage discrimination.
  6. Gay Weddings Blog: written by Bernadette Coveney Smith, a LGBT wedding planner, this blog informs readers how to have beautiful, memorable same-sex weddings.
  7. The Gay Wedding Experience: recently married gay couple Brian and Tom share their story and include their thoughts on marriage equality and other thought-provoking topics.
  8. Huffington Post Gay Marriage Blog: this blog covers all topics gay marriage, including celebrity support for marriage equality, the benefits of same-sex marriage, and the growing acceptance of gay marriage.
  9. CNN Political Blog: Same Sex Marriage: CNN keeps you up to date on the latest activity in the political world surrounding same-sex marriage. Hear the opinions of politicians and review the progress of the legal battles.
  10. Gay Married Californian: this blog covers gay marriages issues in California, focusing on theology, children, genetics, and orientation. It also examines the data behind support for gay marriage.
  11. For Real: recently married Emily shares her tips concerning LGBT wedding planning. This site is perfect for those who “don’t fit in the bride/groom category.”
  12. On a Bicycle Built for Two: this blog provides inspirational stories about LGBT couples as they embark on their journey towards marriage. Blogger Tracey pays tribute to queer and lesbian weddings.
  13. The Best Gay Wedding Blog Ever: Kristen-Alexzander Griffith shares his experiences in planning a gay wedding after realizing that the net didn’t have a great selection of information on the topic.
  14. 14 Stories: blogger Bernadette Smith provides thoughtful advice for LGBT couples as they plan their weddings. 14 Stories is a firm devoted to creating legal LGBT weddings.
  15. Gay Weddings: this site has it all–blog, directory, and many other great features to make your wedding a success. The site is dedicated to providing great products and advice to same-sex couples.
  16. Equally Wed: a resource for brides, grooms, and brooms to come together to write about the fun of planning a wedding. Vendors of LBGT weddings also share their services.
  17. Ms. Blog: launched in 1972, Ms. magazine is known as one of the nation’s premier feminist publications. The Ms. Blog has been delighting readers since 2010 as a source for LGBT marriage reporting and commentary.
  18. Same Sex Tax Blog: blogger Patricia Cain is a Distinguished Professor of Law at Santa Clara Law School. The blog tracks the latest issues surrounding taxes and same sex couples.
  19. Gay Wedding Blog: Cristian Asher blogs about life, love, his marriage, and his thoughts on LGBT new items and debates. He often doesn’t hold back, which makes for a compelling read.
  20. Rainbow Wedding Network: the Rainbow Wedding Network was started in 2000 as the world’s first LGBT wedding gift registry. The blog reviews current issues in gay marriage.
  21. Gay Wedding Organizer: in this fun and informative blog, readers can search for wedding tips, inspiration, and advice on LGBT relationships. Articles on creative wedding ideas are sure to give you great ideas!
  22. Legal Out: this service provides affordable, easy-to-use online legal document preparation. The blog contains resources on gay marriage, GLBT news, and community links.
  23. Gay Forth and Multiply: so you’ve gotten married to the love of your life and now want a baby together. This blog talks all about donor sperm, IVF, and the magic of pregnancy.
  24. Gay Wedding Destinations: a blog all about gay weddings, where to go, what rings to buy, etc. Includes commentary on the political and social progressions towards marriage equality.
  25. Lesbian Wedding Blog: told as a photo collage, this blog features numerous ideas, stories, and fun ways to make your special day a memory that will last forever.
  26. Situation Room Same-Sex Marriage Blog: Wolf Blitzer keeps America informed on the latest happenings on the topic of same sex marriage. Includes video links.

Gay Dating Blogs

  1. The Guy Liner: this blog is all about a guy who joined an internet dating site. He blogs about talking to men online, arranging dates, and shares his experiences and drama dating men.
  2. Positively Dating: written by a mid 30′s HIV positive single gay man living in New York City, Positively Dating journals the dating experiences of an HIV positive person and seeks to set up a dialogue on the stigmas about being HIV positive.
  3. Key Changes: a gay dating site by blogger Nicolas, Key Changes shares the dating life of a young professional/writer/ex-Manhattanite. Posts cover such topics as failing in love with a stranger and gay bars.
  4. Gay Dating Guide Blog: this site has everything you need for tips, advice, stories, and more for meeting great men. Articles include “Top 5 Reasons WHy the Internet is the Best Place to Meet Gay Men” and “How to Get What You Want on a First Date.”
  5. Gay Dating Agency: the blog for this UK dating service mixes politics, dating tips, and dating advice to give readers helpful lessons in finding the right guy and falling in love.
  6. Guy Spy: the all male location-based social networking app for iPhone, Android, and web and mobile web, Guy Spy is your destination for fast, easy connections. The Guy Spy blog covers a multitude of articles that provide dating tips and advice.
  7. GayDar Blog: here, readers can get dating tips and tricks, and learn more about the GayDar service, a global gay dating service. The blog also covers topics on HIV/AIDS protection and prevention.
  8. The Gay Love Coach: this blog provides intimacy, couple, and dating advice for single and non-single gay men. Full of great articles on coming out, communication, and conflict resolution.
  9. Break the Illusion: YouTube fitness and love coach Davey Wavey blogs about spreading the message of love, acceptance, and the fun of gay dating. He is one of the leading voices for the gay and lesbian community.
  10. Accidental Bear: provides readers with queer news, art, culture, and discussion. The bloggers here comb the web looking for interesting gay dating topics and share them in a witty way.
  11. Life Solutions for Gay Men: licensed therapist, board certified life coach and author in New York City, Paul Novello shares his thoughts on empowering gay men to date with more confidence and success.
  12. Age Appropriate: an interactive blog for gay men, Age Appropriate covers sex, dating, pop culture, and nightlife. Posts are both fun and memorable. The site’s mission is to keep your hunt as enjoyable, entertaining, and enticing as the catch itself.
  13. Gay Life Coach: written for gay men who desire to take back control of their lives, Gay Life Coach features the “Ask Adam and Tony” advice column, as well as articles on how to meet the right guy and sustain a relationship.
  14. Confessions of a Boy Toy: blogger Oscar discusses travel escapades, exploring life, and finding that special someone in this hip, flowing blog. He describes the confessions as “confident, unapologetic, best foot forward.”
  15. Gay Everyday: Josh reaches out to readers in a beautiful, open way in this refreshing blog whose goal is to support gay Christian men. His posts share his dating experiences as a young gay man.
  16. From the Tumultuous Mind of Henry Perkins: blogger Henry Perkins opines about living and dating in Toronto as a early 30′s gay man. His posts describe the (sometimes agonizing) process in finding love.
  17. The Gayly Dose: if you have a question about love, sex, or dating, or really anything else, this blogger welcomes your questions! The Gayly Dose offers readers great advice on dating.
  18. Ty Curious: written by Ty, a self described “hot mess of masculinity and love redefining what it means to be a gay man”, Gay Agenda talks about life, love, and dating.
  19. Gay Banker: as the title suggests, this blog is written by a gay banker in London. Chalk full of dating tips and advice, the blog also explores the serious topics of sexuality and acceptance.
  20. Kissing Kamal: captures the real-life exploits of a single gay man dating in Washington, DC. Kamal gets down to the point of the first meeting and other bumps along the road of dating.
  21. Kinda Gay Blog: Sam shares his thoughts about coming out of the closet, dealing with depression, and learning how to be himself. Readers are inspired by his story and can learn from his experiences.
  22. Secret Blog of a Gay Guy: read dating stories and other tidbits on how to find that special someone. The author was once confused about his sexuality and uses this blog to describe his journey towards self-discovery.
  23. The Huffington Post Gay Dating Blog: bloggers share dating stories, advice for what to do and what not to do, and many other nuggets of common sense to help you find the love of your life.
  24. Charlie Ballard Blog: inspired by all those other posers thinking they know about gay dating, Charlie takes his blog to the next level, and give it to readers straight–but in a gay way.
  25. Buck Up, Princess: written by an older guy in his 50′s who prefers to date younger men, Buck Up, Princess shares experiences with aging and inter-generational dating.
  26. Finding Bliss: this gay matching service has a great little blog that dispenses relationship and dating advice, including posts on how to live from the heart and how to live happily ever after.
  27. Gay Times Blog: brought to you by Gay Times, the UK’s leading gay magazine, this blog delves right into the issues and questions you have. Do we still need gay clubs? Find out at the Gay Times Blog.
  28. Gay Dating Guide: this blog is full of helpful hints and tips from sex, to finding the right man, to sending flirty texts. The blog also is a great jumping resource for ebooks on gay dating.
  29. Wicked Gay Blog: a blogger shares his thoughts on dating, politics, love, life, and the experiences living as a gay man. Plus some hot pics!

Lesbian Dating Blogs

  1. Lesbian Matchmaker Blogs: read real dating stories that describe the most intimate details of finding new love and new relationships. This blog is also a space for heart-breaking tales and the compassion and support that follows.
  2. Doris Anderson: the founder and Executive Director of the Self-Identified Lesbian Community Center, Doris Anderson’s blog is used by her to reach out to lesbians nationwide to provide emotional and social support.
  3. When Sally Met Sally: lesbian dating blog When Sally Met Sally is a great little blog full of dating advice for the modern lesbian. Articles featured include helpful hints on opening up and avoiding the Mr. Right trap.
  4. Lesbian Dating and Relationships: this blog discusses the process of dating and creating healthy relationships. The blog is geared towards helping lesbians, both single and partnered.
  5. Lesbian Dating Project: the mission of this blog is to help provide a creative, productive, and economical way for lesbians to date and connect with each other.
  6. Just Shore Girls: Just Shore Girls was started by Ingrid and Ginger, two lesbians who used to live on the Jersey Shore. The site is focused on Jersey Shore lesbian life and contains some great articles on love and sex.
  7. Lesbian Serial Dater: blogger Zy Drew, the serial dater, talks about seeking the perfect woman, but never finding her. Readers follow Zy’s zany dating adventures as she looks for that special someone.
  8. L Date: a nice blog-style forum where lesbians looking for love come to chat, meet, and make new connections. Find your next sweetheart at L Date, a cute, no-frills blog.
  9. The Other Team: at The Other Team, readers can find help for lesbian and bisexual women looking for relationships and how to love themselves for who they really are.
  10. Assyrian Cupid: this site, which helps Assyrian’s connect, features a great blog on lesbian dating. Articles include how to meet lesbian singles, tips for lesbian moms, and much more.
  11. Gay Girl Net: this site features lesbian chat, lesbian dating advice, lesbian personal, and a very friendly lesbian community powered by a great blog. The site is very friendly, with a genuine community feel.
  12. Lesbian Life: this blog, in the author’s words is “about relationships, celebs, music, movies.” Basically Lesbian Life is about just finding your place in the world.
  13. The Lesbian Question: this is a blog for and by lesbians. It’s built to be a safe place for asking the questions you may have about lesbian dating, sex, and relationships.
  14. Glam Lesbian Dating Advice: from the gay love advice magazine, this lesbian dating blog offers readers the do’s and don’t of lesbian dating, including a great article on Murphy’s Law.
  15. Lesbian UK: a nice little blog all about lesbian dating in the UK. With articles on gay clubs, marriage, and a whole lot more. Readers enjoy the often funny, witty content.
  16. Lesbians Meet: this cute lesbian dating blog is all about discovering if you are a lesbian, meeting other lesbians, and having a great time doing it! This blog is a breeze to read.
  17. Lesbian Dating News: the latest news in the lesbian dating scene, complete with articles on the best dating sites, gay marriage, dating in the military, and much more.

LGBT Dating and Coaching Blogs

  1. Gay Girl Dating Coach: dating coach Mary Gorham Malia is a lesbian, who’s 50+, has raised two children, came out later in life, divorced, and shares lessons learned from many lesbian dating experiences.
  2. My Quality Connection: this blog must receive special recognition, because in its inaugural post, it discusses gay bulling, which is a topic that should be discussed in regards to all LGBT dating.
  3. Free Dating Blog: with articles on senior dating, lesbian dating, adult dating, chat lines, and much more, Free Dating Blog covers both gay and lesbian dating and relationships.
  4. Love Relationship Coaching: relationship coach Lyndra Hearn Antonson blogs about gay marriage, advice for couples, dating advice, and a bunch more great topics for improving your love life.
  5. Art of Relationship: Sarah Anand Anma has had years of experience researching, recording, and using a variety of techniques to improve her relationships. In her blog, she gives helpful advice learned after years of practice.
  6. It Gets Better Blog: the It Gets Better project is concerned with helping and supporting young LGBT individuals. Bloggers offer advice, counseling, and hope.
  7. LGBT Support Blog: your destination for support to date and fall in love with who you wish. Posts provide support and information concerning the LGBT community.
  8. Good as You: readers of Good as You come back again and again for LGBT news and commentary about politics, dating, love, sex, and other emotional topics.
  9. LGBT Supports: at this blog, young LGBT individuals can browse heartfelt stories about dating, living as an LGBT, and the wider issues surrounding progress towards equality.

Gay Love and Life Coaching

  1. Gay Twogether: a blog for relevant news, interesting articles, great pictures and other cool stuff for and about gay relationships. This site is geared to help you improve your relationship.
  2. Holy Grasshopper: relationship coach Tom Ellis offers thoughtful advice about living life to the fullest, improving your relationships, and connecting with those who love you.
  3. Anthony Quaglieri: in this up and coming blog, Anthony Quaglieri shares his thoughts on love and relationships. He is skilled in psychodynamic, psychodrama and group therapy, couples and family therapy, and sexual counseling.
  4. Joe Kort: relationship expert Joe Kort provides readers a variety of articles on love and relationships. These topics include addiction, anger management, body image, and coming out.
  5. Rick Clemons, the Coming Out Coach: in this thought-provoking blog, gay relationship expert Rick Clemons talks about working through your relationships and how to come out the right way.
  6. Paul Novello: licensed therapist, board certified life coach and author in New York City, Paul Novello blogs about gay relationships, and gives readers tips for making them healthy and strong.
  7. Dave Allen: relationship coach Dave Allen teaches you how to make the most out of your relationships, and offers advice on living a full, passionate life.
  8. Mark Reinert: love and life coach Mark Reinert speaks of overcoming fears and doubts to live an exciting full life, full of love. His posting about escaping loneliness and finding belonging is especially good.
  9. Michael Cohen: relationship expert Michael Cohen imparts the healthy and positive results from mediation and healthy relationships and gives advice on how your relationships can grow through the seasons.
  10. Christian Perez: Mr. Perez offers relationship coaching, life coaching, and counseling through this friendly, easy-reading blog. He includes topics on gay dating and how to improve your life’s outlook.
  11. Gerry Fisher: love and relationship coach Gerry Fisher specializes in coming out issues and defining who are you as an individual.
  12. Real Flexx: blog that gets right down to it and talks about safe gay sex, condoms, and trends in the gay dating scene. Plus read about tips for winning the dating game.
  13. My Out Spirt: this blog focuses on the spirituality that comes from a loving, gay relationship. The blog includes beautiful poetry and other enlightening posts about gay relationships.

Lesbian Love and Life Coaching

  1. Little Gay Book: at the site of Dr. Frankie, lesbian dating expert, lesbians can peruse a great blog full of dating tips and advice. Memorable posts discuss jealousy, grief, and shyness.
  2. The Lesbian Guru: let lesbian relationship expert Christine guide you on how to avoid lesbian dating pitfalls, how to meet that special someone, and how to avoid drama over the holidays.
  3. A Date Coach: the bloggers at A Date Coach focus mainly on lesbian dating post divorce. Readers can connect with their own struggles through the stories of others in similar situations.
  4. Lesbian Date Coach: this blog offers articles on how to get a girl, not through simply getting out at meeting people, but by first getting a life.
  5. Celeste and Danielle: relationship experts Celeste and Danielle offer lesbian dating advice through their coaching services and blog. They explore understanding and expressing erotic desires to strengthening communication.
  6. Your Daily Lesbian Moment: your daily dose of lesbian art, dating, politics, social media, sex, and love! This blog seems to have it all–a fun, kinda crazy melody of all things lesbian.


When you love someone, you want your family to accept himDuring the last few years we’ve seen society grow ever more supportive of gays and lesbians, with more vocal and legislative support for gay lifestyles and civil rights. But that might still not mean anything when it comes to the question of your family’s acceptance of your life as a gay man. Getting your family to accept your gay lifestyle can be tough. It isn’t just a question of whether they’re fair versus unfair, prejudiced versus enlightened. Rather, your family’s thoughts and expectations were tied to one pattern, one idea they had concerning you from years ago — and it had to change. The question is, were they able to change their entrenched thinking? If not, what would help?

Initial Support of Your Lifestyle

Maybe you came out long ago to your family members, and it seemed you had their support in a general way. This must have been a wonderful thing to feel, especially if you see family frequently; everyone, everywhere wants to be respected, loved and accepted by the ones we grew up with. They are our foundation, and that’s why it is worthwhile to try to do what is possible to make that relationship with family a full one, one which includes you and your gay partner.

Gay And Gay Once Again

You probably encountered the first pothole in the road when you brought a boyfriend to your family’s house to meet them. And sitting there, with your guy next to you, you felt that every movement of yours was being scrutinized as if you were an alien. You may have refrained from any physical contact with your boyfriend, but what if you didn’t? And that’s the test, isn’t it: Sure, your parents gave lip service to supporting you in your gay lifestyle, and they believed they meant it, but when they’re hit with the reality of it — namely, that yes, you are having a dating relationship and having sex with a man — that’s a whole ‘nuther thing. They can’t escape the knowledge of it, so it’s as if you just came out to them AGAIN.
In a way, you did. You were presenting them with the opportunity to see you firmly fixed in this gay man’s role. The old role was probably something along the lines of their little boy growing up, marrying a woman, having a family of his own. But now the life waiting for you will be on your own terms (and might still consist of marrying and having children, of course). You’re the same man who grew up from that small boy your parents knew well, but now they have to get familiar with once more, by revisiting their idea of you.
If your family relationship is important enough to you, you should let them do it — Let them see and hear enough about you to work it through. But of course you want them to see the most positive aspects of your life and your relationships and your friends, so controlling the flow of information about your life, to some extent, may be helpful. For instance:

Allow Your Family To Know More About You

1. Talk regularly about your life, your general interests, and your dates — before you ask your family to meet a man you’re involved with. If you go out on a date, mention it and if it was good or bad. This helps make your daily life a real thing to them. This is an important thing for every member of any family.
2. Don’t introduce just any hot date to your family; don’t bring home a man unless your relationship is growing serious. The keepers, in other words.
3. Don’t bring a boyfriend to a major celebration if they’ve never met him. Instead, plan on bringing him after you’ve introduced him in shorter, less impactful meetings. Things like family holidays make for the most intense and stressful meetings we can experience! So work up to those. Once your family members have a relationship with your boyfriend, he will have a place at the family celebration. He’ll be more comfortable, and so will your family.
4. Let your family know the nice things about your boyfriend. Mention his strengths, his interests and hobbies, especially when those interests are also those of one of your family members. Pull them in, and let them know what he knows about — whether it’s political activism, furniture refinishing, dog training, or if he makes the best hot chocolate this side of the Rockies. Give your family lots of specific things they can talk to him about.
5. Talk to your family about how your life really is. Show them that you and your boyfriend have the same problems any heterosexual couple would, because whether you’re in love with a man or a woman, you’re people with similar needs and feelings about being loved. This is the most-real talk you can have with those at home. The day you can talk about your boyfriend and your family talks about it as easily as if it were a heterosexual relationship, that’s the day you’ve reached node lambda — the most “inner,” the most central place you can reach. That’s a good day, when you’ve enfolded your family around you again.
6. Let your family know your intention is to be happy. When you are in a relationship that is good, let them see that it is integral to your happiness. They don’t know how long you’ve been looking for someone, or if you are simply happy being yourself these days.

Discretion About Your Dating Life

We haven’t talked about the right of privacy when you’re with your family. They don’t have the right to ask inappropriate questions, or make rude remarks. So to protect yourself, while you’re doing all this sharing with your family members by discussing your gay life, remind yourself to watch out for anyone trying to ask or remark on something you don’t consider up for discussion. Decide for yourself where your personal sharing ends, and with whom. Sometimes it’s one particular relative who is the problem.

Parental Discretion

What goes without saying is that we all tend to do some editing of our lives when we talk to our families. It isn’t kosher to tell your mother about going home with two guys at once, or having an encounter with someone whose name you didn’t catch. If your sister wouldn’t tell your mom about those things, either, then don’t you do it. Knowing a little too much about your intimate life can make your family uncomfortable whether you were gay OR straight. Moms and dads are sort of eternal in this respect. So don’t burden them with unnecessary details.

When It’s Not Good

Some of us were born into families who never accept that their son goes with men. It may be that you can keep a speaking relationship regardless, perhaps never bringing your partner into that circle. Some of us may not want to visit a family which doesn’t accept your partner, but that’s for each individual to say. Perhaps the challenge we face after that is to try to preserve the ideals that should have been in a family relationship. Can we love others unconditionally, as we ask our parents to do? Can we take care of another person, especially a close friend, or lover, in illness or old age? Can we forgive — accept — tolerate — love, like the good family would?

Families form when people love one another. If we cannot change our parents’ or relatives’ minds enough to respect and support us as gay men, then it is vital that we still make sure we know how to form a family, by showing love and acceptance to those whom we choose to keep close to us.

When you want your family to meet him, it can bring challenges.

You should at least consider introducing your gay partner to your family — because yes, it is that important. Family ties are fundamental ones and figure highly in your personal hierarchy. While we don’t believe in fairy tales, the potential rewards of establishing a connection between the people you grew up with and the man you are in a gay relationship with are worth some work.
It can, however, also be very hurtful if you truly value your family’s opinion and want their approval. If you come from a close family, it may be very difficult trying to pursue a relationship with someone they disapprove of. Even if you’re not that close, it’s still nice to know that they accept the person you choose to spend your time with. Here are a few things that you can do to try to gain your family’s approval for your new relationship.

Discuss the Issue

The first thing that you want to do is discuss the issue. Just knowing that they don’t approve is not enough. You need to know why they feel the way they do if you want to try to change their mind. What is the real reason they don’t want you to see this new person? It could be something as simple as them wanting you to go to college before you get in a real relationship — to something as serious as they found out this person has a criminal record that you don’t know about.
You have to talk to your family and find out their concerns and why they feel like they do before you can understand them. However, when you talk you should be willing to listen, too. Don’t dismiss something they say because you think it’s silly or invalid. To them it may be very serious and if you allow them to explain, then you’ll understand why it’s a problem for them even if you still disagree.
Being able to sit down and discuss the matter can really make a difference. Sometimes, family members just need to be reassured that you’re going to be safe. Addressing their concerns will often be enough to get your family’s approval so they will at least give this new person in your life a chance.

What Do You Do When They’re Being Over Protective

If your family is simply being overprotective, it can be a little more difficult to gain their approval. Sometimes, parents and in some cases, siblings feel like there will never be anyone good enough for you. As a result, they find something wrong with anyone new you start dating. They see all of your potential and have high hopes for your future and they’re afraid you’ll lose the opportunity to accomplish your goals if you pursue a relationship with anyone less than perfect.
There’s not a lot you can do in this case other than assure them that you won’t let anyone else interfere with your plans for the future. It may help if you explain to your family that your partner encourages you to pursue your goals. For example, maybe they encourage you to go to college or to go after that job promotion you’ve been working hard to get.
When your family sees that this person wants the same things for you that they do, they may be more willing to accept and approve of your new relationship.

What If They Have a Legitimate Reason to Not Approve

Occasionally, there will be a legitimate reason why your family does not approve of your new relationship. In this case, you’re going to have a harder time getting their approval but don’t give up. A lot will depend on what the reason is.
For example, some families disapprove when there is a big difference in your ages. In many cases, dating someone much older than you are can cause serious issues especially if you’re still very young. They may also be concerned if the person you’re dating has several children they don’t see often, have been married and divorced two or three times or if they have a criminal record.
Anytime your family has a legitimate reason for not approving of your new relationship, it would be wise to listen to what they have to say. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with them but they may know more about the person than you do. After discussing the situation with them, you can make your decision as to whether or not you want to continue with the relationship.
If you do continue to see the person, you can consider seeking the help of a counselor. Many times, they can help find ways for everyone to accept someone’s past and move on based on future actions.

What Not to Do

It’s not a good idea to tell your new partner every single detail about why your family does not approve of your relationship, at least not at first. This could cause hard feelings between them unnecessarily. Instead, try to work the problem out with your family.
However, if things don’t work out and your family still disapproves but you want to continue dating the person, then you should let them know there is a problem you haven’t been able to do much about. This way, they’ll know what to expect when they meet your family.

Don’t Create Problems Unnecessarily

When starting up a new relationship, you don’t want to create problems unnecessarily. Every couple has disagreements and it’s natural to get aggravated with your partner sometimes. When this happens, you want to talk to someone that sees your side of things, even if it’s not that important of an issue. Therefore, we call up family or close friends and complain.
While this is completely normal and healthy, it can give that person the wrong impression if you’re not careful how you word things. Try starting the conversation by saying everything is fine but you just need someone to complain to a little because things are not going your way. Otherwise, they may mistake your innocent venting as a sign of a serious relationship problem. It’s even more important how you word things when they did not originally approve of your new relationship.


It’s always nice to have your family’s approval when you enter into a new relationship but sometimes this approval doesn’t come easily. Talking to them and learning why one or more members of your family disapprove of your relationship choice will help you understand and know what actions to take to try to resolve the problem.
Once you know why they feel the way they do, you’ll know if they have a legitimate reason that you should take into consideration before continuing the relationship. If their reasons are not valid, then perhaps you can offer some comforting words to make them feel better.
You can even consider family counseling to help determine what the problem is so you can all get along even though you’re making the decision to see someone they don’t approve of. Eventually, your family should come to accept your choice as long as you do have a good relationship with the person you choose.

dating features vary widely online so evaluate carefullySo you have read all of the information on dating sites for gay men and you are ready to start meeting single gay men so you can find that special someone. Only you have found that there are tons of sites to choose from some that are for gays only and others that offer services to everyone. Online Dating is the top way to start a romance and find lovers as well as hookup for sex flings and friendship now, so looking deeply is important. Of course, It can be time consuming and frustrating wading through the thousands of site profiles and sites and this can put you off them all together. So how do you find the best ones?

Know What Features You are Looking For In A Dating Site

You need decide what you are looking for specifically; is it a romance, sex or a long term relationship that you want from a match? This can help you to choose which website is right for you and your needs. Many of the better sites offer more than one type of match for their members. If you are not sure what you want yet, you just know you want to meet more people and you are keeping an open mind to the possibilities then you would probably want to join one of the bigger communities that offer many more options. When you are sure about the type of relationship or match that you want then you should choose a site that offers that particular option. For instance, if you are a gay man who likes dating bi-curious or heterosexual men then you can join a website that is dedicated to that genre specifically.

Does the Website Have A Free Trial Period?

When you find some gay or gay-friendly dating websites that you would like to check out, see if they have a free trial period. Nothing says that you cannot belong to more than one but this can get expensive particularly of you do not like the sites you have chosen. A free trial period allows you to check out all the features without having to become financially invested. When you find the websites that you really like you can pay for these after the trial period and continue with your search for a match. If you do not choose to stay with the site, make sure you cancel your subscription at least a day before it ends so you do not end up being charged on your credit or debit card unexpectedly.

The Best Features

Every site offers some of the same features such as instant messaging and email and these are great ways to get to know your matches. Others offer more in the lines of technological advances for their members that can be more rewarding and fun. There are features such as video chat where you can meet your match face to face only over the safety of the internet through web cams. You can see each other and chat just like you would in real life. There are also chat rooms and other ways to stay in touch with your matches such as flirts and blogs. If these are things that interest you then you should choose a site that offers them.

Security Features

You want to make sure that no matter which gay dating site you choose, it is secure and keeps your personal information personal. Here are some guidelines:

  • On a Gay Online Dating Site – If you feel there is a problem with someone’s behavior either online, by email, or in person, you need to promptly contact support and alert them as to the undesirable behavior of the member. Give them all the details possible – do not hold back, give dates and times, exact quotes from chat logs or email, and do not embellish or lie. If the response does not please you, ditch the service and join another online gay dating site.
  • It should have a secure area where you put in your credit/debit card information and the online dating site should be using high grade encryption so it cannot be hacked and your personal account details stolen. A secure web browser connection is indicated by the site url changing from “http:” to “https” – the “s” stands for secure. This is the same whether you use Chrome, Explorer, Firefox, or any other internet browser.
  • It should also have an onsite email for members so they do not have to give out their own personal email to any matches. You do not want anyone to get your actual email nor do you want them to have your personal address or phone number. This can lead to stalking issues and cyber stalking is bad enough you do not want to have to watch your back at home too.

Membership Cost

While some people would pay anything to find love, happiness and a lifetime commitment, not every can afford to join some sites because they are just too expensive. You need to find a site that not only fits your other criteria but also fits your budget too. The good thing about a paid site is that when someone has to put money into it, like you, they are serious about finding a match. This means that you are not wading through a bunch of profiles of people who are not looking for the same things as you. Everyone is searching for their love match and you could be the one.

Is it Gay Enough?

Don’t laugh. Some mainstream websites with gay members as well as straight members may have a limited amount of Gay or Bisexual members. But the silver lining is that you can join for free, and browsing will give you a good idea of whether or not the quantity PLUS quality meets your expectations. And you will have the opportunity to be more popular because there is less competition versus at one focused exclusively on sexual preferences.

Dating Local Members

If you want to make real life connections eventually then you want to join a website that has members in your area. You can search them out during your trial period to see how many gay people are on the site in your area code. It is much more difficult falling in love with someone who lives hundreds of miles away and where you have to drive long distances or fly to meet them once in a while. If you hit it off, you may find that you cannot handle a long distance relationship and hearts can be broken. Finding love in your own area is much easier and makes for stronger matches.

Review Conclusion

It can be overwhelming to see all of the possibilities with gay dating site and mainstream and options. If you want to find the service most suitable for your love, sex, and relationship needs, then you should take the above tips into consideration. Just make sure you always stay safe and keep your personal information personal until you really trust your match no matter which service you eventually choose.

heartFor one of several reasons, some homosexual and bisexual men will choose to keep their gay lifestyles private. It may be simply that you haven’t come out to your family; but a big driving factor for many today is concern about what effect being ‘out’ will have on your work or profession, where coworkers, bosses or clients might react negatively to your sexual lifestyle.

We have to live in a real world; there are plenty of reasons you might want to keep your gay lifestyle under your hat — and online dating is one thing that helps you be private but still have the social life you owe yourself. When you sign up you should follow safe online behavior such as choosing a username that is not your real name; do not post your email, phone or other personal info, ever, in your profile or any messages. That’s basic for anyone, out or not. And doing so keeps you private until you’ve met someone you want to meet in person.

Gay Focused Online Dating Sites

On all dating sites for single gay men, you already know the other members you see online are into males for love and sex, so it’s as if you’d walked into your favorite bar — where there’s no guesswork about whether someone is straight or not and your approach isn’t likely to offend anybody. As a gay or bi man at your place of work, making assumptions about someone else could be unwise. If you’re not broadcasting your preferences, then others there may be maintaining the same discretion too.

If you live in a small community, that’s another factor that may keep guys from being open. You can’t ask every attractive male if they’re gay without possibly getting punched in the gut. While the general American public seems to believe everyone and his cousin is queer or bisexual, we know too well how small a minority we really are. Being gay and trying to meet anyone for a hookup or a romantic date in a small town is really hard.

Finding a Good Match

Obviously not all men are after the same thing at the same time in their love lives. At this point in time you may not want a serious relationship with a man, but want to go out casually. Or vice versa. Dating online allows you to describe and make clear your preferences, and to look for people whose preferences match yours. Among all the gay profiles you find there will be some just curious, and possibly some fake ones, but still there’s a wealth choices you might never meet without the internet. You’ve found more of the world.

In many communities large or small, homosexuals are apt to be victims of discrimination. Therefore there might be lots of gay guys in your area, even your neighborhood, that you don’t have any idea of because they keep a low profile regarding their sexuality. People can lose jobs or job opportunities, or even fall victim to harassment. Tolerance grows slowly, and the culture and society change slowly too. Recent changes for marriage and other individual rights encourage us but lots of men still choose or even need to keep their orientation private, at least for the time being.

How a Dating Site Focused on Gay Singles helps

If you’re one of the privacy-loving guys, use gay date sites to enhance your life. They’re anonymous when you sign up because that’s how any dating site is, generally. Writing a profile and posting it gives you a chance to think about what is most important to you in a partner or just in a date. You can get very, very specific as to personal qualities if you like, to find some singles who might be a good fit for you. However if you don’t find enough men in your search, widen the geographic area or lose a few specifics.

Another thing to consider is if you’re willing to relocate if you found a man who’s everything you wanted. In a small town with fewer guys to choose among, this may be something you’d think about seriously. You can check out different zip codes on a gay dating site and see if singles are more available in a nearby city; the site often will not require you to be anything but a free member for such searches.

In addition, if privacy is a very high priority, you can choose matches from a zip code outside your immediate area on the gay dating site you join. That can help separate your work & home life from this experience, making it unlikely anyone you know will run into you while you’re on a date with a man. And there’s nothing wrong with discovering new restaurants and sights to enjoy.

It is unfortunate that anyone must worry about being his true self. But the hard fact of the matter is that there are certain professions in which someone is at risk of losing his employment over sexual matters. One of those professions is of course teaching. Teachers, as role models of the young, have always been a target of prejudice and misunderstanding from the public. Any teacher but especially the homosexual teacher must, like Caesar’s wife, avoid even the appearance of living a life that’s not what the local people think is moral and good. Localities vary in their tolerance, so meeting a gay friend on a dating site and even going out on a date somewhere out of town can protect your interests.

Many gays who lived closeted lives throw open the door when they meet someone and fall in love. When you’ve found that special person, it makes living openly worth it, and demonstrates pride in your relationship. That’s a wonderful thing. But in order to get there and find that one person, you’ve got to go out and look — start dating. Gay dating websites are a tool today we’re lucky to have; why not make use of them?

A date at the beach.

So, you have met an interesting potential partner and want to head out on the town, but you have no idea where to go. It is important to choose a place where the both of you can easily talk while also having fun. For example, a movie is not a great place to have a conversation and while this is fine for some dates, when you are getting to know someone, you want to be able to chat and share some fun times. There are many great date ideas for gay couples that will allow you to get to know each other, as well as create some fun memories.

Get Physical

If you are more of a nervous and shy person, why not break a sweat with your partner. Playing a sport, taking a hike or heading for a bike ride is a great way to bond and have fun, but also allows you to talk. This could also turn into a regular thing if you both have fun. Make sure that you choose an activity that both you and your date can enjoy. For example, if your partner does not like golf, taking them there could be a bit awkward. There is no doubt that the both of you have at least one physical activity that you both enjoy.

Go to a Live Music Show

In the nice weather, you can often find live music outdoors at local parks and other outdoor venues. In the cooler weather, live music can be found everywhere from local concert clubs to small pubs and coffee shops. You can find rock bands, jazz bands and everything in between. Talk to your partner and get to know the type of music they like and find a type of music that you both enjoy and see a show in that genre. If you go to see a more upbeat band, you could make this date into a combination of live music and some dancing. Most pubs and coffee shops also sell some type of food, so you can include dinner on this date too.

Hit the Beach

The beach is always a good time and allows for a variety of activities. You could pack up a lunch and some drinks and make it into a lunch date. You could simply lie out together and chat. You could bring a Frisbee or a volleyball and turn this date into a physical date. Or, bring all three things and just spend the entire day soaking up the sun and enjoying each other’s company. With the beach, the possibilities are just about endless.

Laser Tag

You and your date can team up to take on another team in laser tag. This is a great way to create a bond and to see how your partner is under pressure. Most large cities will have laser tag places either right in the city or in a nearby suburb. The great thing about this date is that if things just are not going great, it is not a very long date, so you can be polite and finish the date and then head home.

Take a Cooking Class

Not everyone is a natural-born cook. Cooking classes can also be fun. You both can get a bit messy, talk about your favorite foods and then eat something that you both worked together to make. Cooking classes can be a one-time thing or it can be something that you both do semi-regularly, depending on how much you enjoy it. Some cooking classes are free, so you get to have fun together and get a free meal. Those that are not free and usually rather inexpensive.

Hit an Art Walk

Most major cities have art walks at least once a month. At an art walk, all of the local galleries will open their doors and have refreshments for those that stop by. Cities that do not have an art walk may do a local art show that is open to the public. This is usually outdoors in the warm weather and at a local gallery in the cold months. These are free and will provide plenty of conversation starters. To top it off, free food and drinks are usually always available, so you both can skip dinner if you’d like to.

Hit Up the Local Fair or Amusement Park

Adding some thrill to your date can be a great way to either make a good first impression or to spice things up if you have been dating awhile. Fairs will be less expensive and usually less of a hassle. They tend to have fewer rides and activities, but plenty to keep you both entertained for at least a few hours. Fairs also tend to have great food, so you both could grab dinner here too. Amusement parks usually have rides, games and a water park, so the both of you are sure to find several activities that you both can enjoy.

Hit Up a Comedy Club

Laughing is a great way to bond and create fun memories. Of course, not all comedians are the funniest, but you are both sure to have a good time either way. Some of the biggest comedy clubs have nights where they serve dinner and drinks, as well as offer comedy acts. Prices vary across the country, but these are generally rather affordable unless a major and well-known comedian is performing.

Volunteer Together

If you and your partner have a passion for giving back and helping others, spending a few hours volunteering together is sure to be a phenomenal date. Not only is this is a great date, but it is free. If you are both handy, helping to build homes is a great idea. If you have a heart for the homeless population, working at a soup kitchen or collecting food and clothing are great things to do. There is no shortage of volunteer opportunities throughout the country, so just hit up the web to find the ones that both you and your partner have the most passion for.

Your Favorite Spots

One great date idea that is also a great way to get to know each other is to take each other to your favorite spots. For example, if your favorite spot is a local park, you take your date there and spend a little time doing various activities. If your date’s favorite spot is a local bistro, go there and try your mate’s favorite dish with them. You will both learn things about each other and have a complete date night.

Make it a Group Date

Have your partner bring their closest few friends and you bring yours. It is a good idea to do this at your house and make it a pot luck-style night. This is a great way for the both of you to get to know each other’s friends. It is also a great way to try new foods. Food always brings people together, so allowing each guest to bring their favorite dish is not only a good conversation starter, but a great way to make bonds. Of course, there is always a chance that two guests won’t like each other, but there are plenty of other guests for them to mingle with.

It may be love or friendship, things can change.

A notable surge in gay dating is that towards forming long-lasting bonds rather than one-time hits with guys. Naturally there has always been a large segment of the same-sex population that leaned toward a committed relationship, but now a site that becomes popular for personals will find itself inundated with members who want a love interest that includes living together, and more. A lot of the specific issues fought about in current legislation — marriage, parenthood, partner benefits, etc. — happen to be mainstream interests that concern couples more than people who date a lot. So how does this affect gay dating? Answer: Being compatible matters more.

Sharing Common Interests

It means people are seeking compatibility with someone on a gay dating site, so those which either start out with a questionnaire to determine common interests, or make it easy to screen profiles for your interests, are getting more and more members. Dates are a little more like planned get-togethers than hot encounters on, or, or other matchmaking services. Things can go better when the two people like to do the same things, such as sports, books, theater and plays, dining out and more. Physical attraction, people are advised, is not the only issue in a good relationship.

Physical Attraction Is Just a Start

It is true you’re probably not going to contact someone whose profile you see and don’t feel the least attraction, but if physical attraction is all you feel then any relationship is unlikely to be a solid one. An online gay dating site offering matches to you based on compatible interests can help you avoid falling just for someone’s looks. Trying to find a love interest among the people you have something in common with is a way to find a balanced relationship, one that has the odds on its side to last beyond that first attraction.

Friendship Is A Seed Of Love

You might consider looking for friendships first when you join a gay online dating site, rather than deciding all you want is sex and all the whole package in one person. If you start going into the chat rooms with more to say than a proposition, you can find friends who have hobbies and interests that align with yours. Friendships can and do become love, often. These are some of the strongest relationships you’ll know in your life. It’s a great idea to seek out friends at least as much as you look for lovers. It’s a reason to also join hobby groups, wine tasting groups, clubs.

Browsing Profiles For Both Friends & Lovers

In general, being compatible with someone can make the relationship more resilient, whether it’s a friendship or a love interest. The relationship has a stronger foundation. So contacts you make on some online dating site may be important friendships even if they are not more right away. Some may have more chemistry between you two, which you won’t discover until you meet in person. And sometimes attraction is weak and you don’t ‘click’ right off — but if you explore those relationships too you have a much greater chance of finding the deeper relationship.


You’ll find a great deal of similarity between gay dating on the web and dating in other venues. However, signing up on a gay online dating site expands your potential contacts and organizes those contacts. Looking for men there makes sense if you want to find both attraction and friendship, and an easier method of discovering guys in the local area in general. And anything that makes meeting people more easily is an excellent thing when you’re seeking love with a boyfriend.

If you have been at some online gay dating sites and now you want to meet up with your matches and see what they are like in real life you may be wondering where you can go. There are many great places to have a first date but the best are dates that occur during the day. You will find that there is less pressure on a day date than there would be on a night date. It is much easier to relax and be yourself while getting to know your match.

Coffee Shop

A coffee shop is a great place for a first date because it is much easier to chat over coffee during the day to see if there are any sparks between you two. This is a much more relaxed atmosphere where you can relax without the pressures of figuring out what to do at the end of the night. Those night dates that may end with you two together should be left until you have really become friends with your match first. While you may have a favorite coffee shop, you should pick one that is in between where the both of you live so nobody does the bulk of the driving. At your regular shop you may run into someone you know and that can make the date awkward for your date. You do not want your date to be intimidated and unless you are ready to introduce them to your friends a neutral place is much better.

Museums or Art Galleries

A great casual date is going to an art gallery or a museum where you can walk around and chat while looking at artistic pieces. The art and artifacts are great conversation starters and can keep the conversation light and can show you each other’s personalities by the way you perceive the artworks. You do not have to get into any deep conversations but you will still get to know each other very well over a short period of time. Most of these places also have a café either located inside or near the location where you can have a bite to eat and discuss the artwork or any other topic you choose. If you like the person you could begin learning more about them and their other interests while letting them know you are and what you are about.

Wine Tasting

A wine tasting is a great place to get to know a new love interest and is a great place for a first date. You can enjoy each other’s company while trying new wines out without any pressure of having to carry a conversation. This is the perfect date for those who are shy and need some time with another person to be comfortable enough to open up to them. Since you do not normally drink the wine at a tasting, you spit it out instead; you do not have to worry about becoming intoxicated unless you really want to. If you and your date find that you like each other, you can pick up a couple of bottles of wine for your next date or to take to the beach, lake or park to have an impromptu picnic.

Sporting Events

If you both share a love of sports, you can always meet and go to watch your favorite team play. If they do not play in your city you can always find a local team to go and watch even if they may not be your favorite. It is the act of going out to these games and spending time together that is more important. It would be great if you liked the same team and could cheer together but there is also something to be said for being rivals who get to make friendly jokes about each other’s teams. You could even start the date with a tailgate party before the game so you are relaxed and ready to spend time watching the game together. There is not as much time to talk while watching the game so the tailgate is your perfect opportunity to talk and to get to know each other.

Amusement Park, Carnival or Zoo

These three are all great places for a first date because they are busy, you can go during the day and there is a lot of activities that you can do while getting to know each other. You can play games that allow you to send your date home with a little trinket of your date or watch the animals in their habitats. Conversation again comes easily at these types of venues because there is so much to see and do. If you choose an amusement park or carnival, do not force or belittle your date into going on rides that they may not enjoy even if you do enjoy them. They will not appreciate it and not everyone likes to go up high, upside down or at fast speeds. Instead, find out what they like and do that instead.


There are many things that you can do to enjoy a first date without feeling pressured to have long conversations. Not everyone is a talker and those who are shy might find this intimidating so these dates is perfect for getting to know each other without the need to have serious conversations. Once you decide you both want to see each other more then you can have those long drawn out conversations that seem to last forever.